# Self-Acceptance > Self-acceptance recognizes the present self as already complete and valid, giving power to create the next moment without striving against what is. - Canonical: https://sassani.app/topic/self-acceptance # Self-Acceptance Self-acceptance, in Bashar's teaching, is the recognition that whatever you are being at any moment is already complete and valid, and that the path forward does not require you to first reject the present self. The framework refuses the usual spiritual logic of "improve the self by opposing what it is now"; instead, acceptance of the present is what gives you the power to create the next moment in the direction you prefer. Striving against the present is what locks the present in place. ## The present is already a perfect part of the path A foundational move is to treat the present — including everything you have done — as unbroken path. Every single step you have ever taken, every stepping stone, has gotten you to where you are; discounting and judging anything you have ever done is just as much a break in your momentum as discounting anything you could ever do. The entire path you are remains unbroken and constantly flowing if you are willing to recognize that anything that has come to you, and anything you have ever done, is part of the path you chose to be. For everything you have ever done has brought you to where you are now, and therefore has served you in a positive way. ## Stop being angry at yourself for being angry The first step in transforming a self-created negative experience is to stop being angry with yourself for choosing to be angry, for choosing a negative experience. It does not just happen to you; it happens through you. Lighten up on yourself for having created the idea of negative experiences — that is the first step to transforming them. You have to let it be all right to have done so; if you are not all right with it, you never will be all right with it. Self-acceptance here is not resignation; it is the precondition for seeing the underlying choice clearly, without stacking more judgment on top of it. ## Already perfect, so stop ranking Perfectionism around self-expression is met with a precise inversion: you are already perfect in everything that you do, and therefore there is no need to achieve that which you already have. Once you allow it to be all right that everything you express is a perfect manifestation of that type or level of expression, you allow each and everything you do to be equal to every other thing you do — and therefore you stop judging yourself or making comparisons of better and worse. The granting of beingness, the granting of validity to yourself to be exactly what you are at any given moment, is what allows you to move to the next moment. ## Letting go of who you think you are A more radical form of self-acceptance is the acceptance of not knowing who you are. Let go of who you think you are; let go of who you think you are supposed to be. In all honesty, you do not know who you are — and that is exactly as it should be. When you are comfortable with not knowing who you are, then you can truly be who you are; then you can truly reveal to yourself who you really were created to be. The same paradox appears in knowingness: the sooner you allow yourself to let it be all right to know that you do not know anything, the sooner you will know everything you need to. Let it be all right to not know, and you will find that you know everything you need at any given moment to know. ## Acceptance, gratitude, and unconditional support The shift from belief into knowingness is described as a state of being — the sensation of acceptance, of gratitude, of letting go, of knowing beyond the shadow of a doubt that you are supported, looked out for, unconditionally loved — and that who and what you are created to be is automatically deserving without having to be earned. If you exist, you deserve it. Acceptance, in this framing, is the felt recognition of support that was always there; it is not a generating act but an allowing one. ## Self-judgment interrupts the flow A practical application is in expression itself. Vocal channeling (and by extension any creative or expressive act) weakens in front of a group because self-reflective judgment slows the process down — you are intervening with the flow of energy and information because you are worried about how it looks and how it sounds. The preparation required is to be prepared to look silly, to not channel anything, to not care what is coming through you. You cannot have self-reflective judgment without interrupting the flow. Acceptance of how it is coming through is the condition for it to come through more cleanly. ## Where you are is all right A direct reassurance appears in the face of feared outcomes: if you can imagine, even within the worst scenario, that you still have choices, you are completely in control. Allow yourself to know that exactly where you are is all right, because you chose to create it to show yourself something of value. The same allowance appears when inner qualities seem to vanish from outer expression: they are not missing. All these things are within you; they do not always have to be expressed externally. If you understand that the connection you prefer is already there and always will be, then the external expression can be seen as a different amalgamation of what is going on within you, expressed on a higher level, a higher frequency domain. ## Lighten up A final, characteristically Bashar-voiced instruction: lighten up. Selling heavy furniture after retirement is read as also lightening up vibrationally; the same unconditional love is then redirected outward, teaching those who would hunt mountain lions that the animals are symbols of the hunters' own natural grace and power, and that all killing is in that sense suicide of a portion of themselves. Lightness toward the self and unconditional love toward the world are two expressions of the same acceptance. ## Practical implications What these transcripts consistently support is a stance toward the present self rather than a procedure: Treat everything you have ever done as part of the unbroken path that brought you here. Discounting the past breaks momentum as much as discounting the future. When you find yourself angry about a negative experience you created, the first step is to stop being angry at yourself for being angry. Let it be all right that you did so before trying to transform it. Replace ranking with allowing. You are already perfect at the level you are expressing; granting validity to exactly what you are is what allows movement to the next moment. Get comfortable with not knowing who you are. The fixed self-image is the obstacle; the live reveal of who you were created to be waits on the other side of accepting the not-knowing. Let it be all right to not know. The known arrives through the doorway of accepted uncertainty, not through effort. Treat acceptance, gratitude, and letting go as felt states — the recognition of unconditional support that was always there, not a thing you have to manufacture. In any expressive act, prepare to look silly and to not care what comes through. Self-reflective judgment is the interruption; dropping it is the flow. Where you are is all right, because you chose to create it to show yourself something of value. The worst-case imagination still contains choice. Inner qualities are not lost when their outer representation changes; the connection you prefer is already there and always will be. Lighten up. Heavy self-judgment and heavy possessions are the same weight; releasing either is the same act of allowance. These implications describe Bashar's framework, not medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice. Where self-acceptance work touches trauma, depression, or self-harm, qualified support remains primary; this framing is complementary, not a substitute. ## Representative passages Every single step you have ever taken, every single stepping stone has gotten you to where you are. It is just as much of a break in your momentum to discount and judge and negate anything you have ever done as it is to discount anything you could ever do. ... For everything you have ever done has brought you to where you are now and therefore has served you in a positive way.— Bashar, Accepting Yourself (accepting-yourself#qa-1) You have to stop being angry with yourself for choosing to be angry, for choosing a negative experience. It doesn't just happen to you. It happens through you. Lighten up on yourself for having created the idea of negative experiences. That's the first step to transforming them.— Bashar, Being Your Natural Self (being-your-natural-self#qa-10) You are already perfect in everything that you do, and therefore there is no need to achieve that which you already have. ... The granting of beingness, the granting of validity to yourself to be exactly what you are at any given moment, is what allows you to move to the next moment.— Bashar, Different Facets (different-facets#qa-4) Let go of who you think you are. Let go of who you think you're supposed to be. ... You don't know who you are. ... And I will tell you this that as exactly as it should be. When it is all right, when you are comfortable with not knowing who you are, then can you truly be who you are?— Bashar, Diving Into The Unknown (diving-into-the-unknown#qa-4) The sooner you allow yourself to let it be all right to know that you don't know anything, the sooner you will know everything you need to. Let it be all right to not know, and you will find that you know everything you need at any given moment to know.— Bashar, Beyond Belief (beyond-belief#qa-5) You can arrive at that state of being, that knowingness, as the sensation of acceptance, the sensation of gratitude, the sensation of letting go, the sensation of knowing beyond the shadow of a doubt that you are supported ... and that who and what you are created to be is automatically deserving without having to be earned, for if you exist, you deserve it.— Bashar, Beyond Belief (beyond-belief#qa-2) You need to be prepared to look silly. You need to be prepared to not care what's coming through you. You cannot have the idea of self-reflective judgment. Otherwise, you are slowing the process down.— Bashar, Dropping The Over Analytical Point of view (dropping-the-over-analytical-point-of-view#qa-2) If you can imagine, even within the worst scenario that you still have choices, you are completely in control. 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