# Victimhood > Bashar teaches that victimhood is a present-tense habit of assumption rather than a status bestowed by events, with victim and victimizer understood as polarities of one event whose pattern can shift through changing self-definition now. - Canonical: https://sassani.app/topic/victimhood # Victimhood In Bashar's teaching, "victim" is not a status that is bestowed on you by what happens; it is a present-tense habit of assumption — a way you currently define who you are. The way out is therefore not to undo the past event but to change the idea of yourself now, because the past itself is a present creation. The teaching is sharp and mechanical: "when you are through playing victim, you will be through playing victimizer," because the two are polarities of one event, not two separate beings. ## Victim and victimizer are one event In the Remembering session an exchange works through the murderer/victim scenario to its logical core. Bashar's framing is that what you normally call a victim is, in a sense, also the murderer, "because the victim is creating the radiation that attracts the perpetrator," so that the perpetrator is, in a sense, the victim's victim — "by falling into the victim's trap." This is not moral equivalence; it is a statement about co-creation. Victimizer and victim are described as "two polarities of the same event, the same action, the same energy, the same consciousness," vibrating at the same reality, and in that sense "being of service to one another" — if only to discover, as a next life, "we do not want to murder anymore, we do not want to be murdered anymore." The point of that reframing is not blame; it is permission. If victim and victimizer are one event, then changing your vibration now changes the entire pattern. ## The habit that recreates the victim When the questioner asks how the victim exorcises themselves from the pain, Bashar's answer is direct: By choosing to not be a victim, by choosing to not act like a victim, by not giving the power away… Because you do not believe you are the creator of your reality, you are in the habit of assuming that is the only way life happens — that habit of assumption allows you to recreate yourself over and over again as a new victim.— Bashar, Remembering (remembering#qa-12) The habit lives in the assumption that being victimized is simply how life works — a definition so deep it feels like reality rather than belief. The way out begins the moment you recognize that this is a habit of assumption, not a fact. ## Memory is a present creation The reason "changing who you are now" can address a past victimization is that, in this teaching, the past itself is created from the present. "You create the past and the future from the present; memory is a present creation." The questioner resists ("But it doesn't erase what occurred yesterday.") and Bashar answers: "Yes, it does." The point is not a factual denial; it is that one moment does not have to be connected to the last "unless you determine that it should be." Holding the past incident around your neck is itself a present choice, kept in place by thinking in linear time. ## TheCreators3 corollary: agreement, not blame A second session sharpens what "no victims" does and does not mean. In Creators3, asked whether you are a victim when something unwanted happens, Bashar answers: "Your reality is a direct product of your belief, even if that belief is from a fear. Therefore, if you create that fear, you're creating that belief and you're creating that reality. You are not a victim. There are no victims." The next sentence matters as much: "This does not excuse what you term to be a perpetrator, since it is their responsibility to understand that they do not need to reinforce your victimhood. But always between individuals, in a common reality, there must be a form of agreement, a form of creation." The teaching therefore refuses the choice between "I am a victim" and "the perpetrator is excused." It holds both: you are the creator of your reality (not a victim), and the other party is responsible for their choice (not excused). Shared events, it says, involve shared agreements and shared beliefs — including beliefs held through fear. ## Practical implications Catch the assumption. The signature habit of victimhood is the unspoken definition that "this is just how life happens." The first move is to see that as an assumption, not a fact — the moment you recognize it, you are already shifting it. Change the now, not the past. Because memory is treated as a present creation, the work is to change the idea of yourself now; successive nows then no longer contain the reality of being a victim. Refuse the false choice. "No victims" does not mean excusing harm. The teaching explicitly preserves the perpetrator's responsibility while removing the status of victim from the one harmed. Notice the paired pattern. Where there is a victimizer in your experience, the same teaching suggests looking for the matching vibration being held — not as self-blame, but as the lever that lets the whole pattern shift. Respect ordinary boundaries. This is metaphysical framing, not legal or safety direction; where actual harm has occurred, the ordinary protections and recourses remain fully valid. ## Representative passages By choosing to not be a victim, by choosing to not act like a victim, by not giving the power away… that habit of assumption allows you to recreate yourself over and over again as a new victim.— Bashar, Remembering (remembering#qa-12) Victimizer and victim are two polarities of the same event, the same action, the same energy, the same consciousness. They are vibrating at the same reality.— Bashar, Remembering (remembering#qa-12) You create the past and the future from the present; memory is a present creation.— Bashar, Remembering (remembering#qa-12) You are not a victim. There are no victims. This does not excuse what you term to be a perpetrator, since it is their responsibility to understand that they do not need to reinforce your victimhood.— Bashar, Creators3 (creators3#qa-1) ## Related - [Self-Empowerment](https://sassani.app/topic/self-empowerment) - [Definitions & Beliefs](https://sassani.app/topic/definitions-and-beliefs) - [Parallel Realities](https://sassani.app/topic/parallel-realities) - [Unconditional Love](https://sassani.app/topic/unconditional-love) Markdown twin of https://sassani.app/topic/victimhood. The HTML page is the source of truth.